March 22, 2008 by gloria.

I talked to my little GRAND children too. I love that word “grandmother” because it means to me that as a grandmother, two things: I have GRAND children of my children, and I get to be called “grand” by the people that matter most to me! What a blessing! But in reality they call me a name they prefer “Nanny” because it is a familiar one that we, me and my only two children [grown daughters] grew up hearing in that context. 

 Here are my thoughts on that topic of the duties of becoming a GRAND-mother, mother-surrogate sort of to those children of your children. There are many so-called philosophies of life and many of them are very worldly. Yet teaching one’s own family to love GOD is the most important task of all. I was adding the scriptures about JESUS’ resurrection to some of my journals today when they called. . Oh yea, I know that my daughter teaches them that there is a GOD, and to pray, but I believe that grandmothers [and grandfathers too, except in this case, I am divorced but the grandfathers are  alive elsewhere]  are very influential in the lives of their grandchildren. Maybe more in a way than the parents.

My own grandparents influenced me greatly and in very positive ways. I think that sometimes the wisdom of those added years gives a patience and an understanding to the Grands that perhaps the mother an father may not have in those child-bearing years.

I learned that my oldest granddaughter who is all of seven, I think, sold 69 boxes of girl scout cookies and is learning to add, subtract, multiply in school and that my oldest grandson , at age of almost nine, is willing to read the Bible to his younger siblings and thank GOD for that! My littlest granddaughter is yet to be born, and the middle one loves to sing and was born with that love. We sang JESUS loves me several times. I remember her wearing a ski hat on her head, riding on the push part of the vaccum cleaner and singing at the top of her lungs when she was a baby! In my mind’s eye, I remember that photograph of her and it always pleases me. All of my grandchildren are so precious to me and the things that they do and say are the crowning moments of my life in so many ways. Sometimes when I wonder what I did right in my life, I think of those darling children and the sweet and wonderful things that they do that affirm me. They love me too! It is the greatest reward of my life to know that, through all the chaos of my life, I produced two wonderful living daughters who in turn are producing wonderful children [or will, one daughter is not married yet but I pray she will and have lots of children]. 

If you are in the mindset that you are falsely thinking that you cannot afford children, mend your ways. The greatest most enduring blessing on the earth is children and their children.

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March 14, 2008 by gloria.

There is nothing that compares to the love I have for my little grand-children! I looked at some of their photos today and realized that for all the suffering of my life in some ways, GOD is good to me because I have two wonderful daughters and grandchildren! I looked at the photo of my youngest grandchild who at the age of about eighteen months put one foot on the rung of the dining chair and climbed right on the top of the table  and sat down amongst the Thanksgiving oranges and items! And sat there so very pleased with himself as he surveyed all of us as if to say, “there I showed you!” It is a precious photo.

And recently I met a new guy and we went on a couple of dates [ I am divorced you know, and so is he] and I decided I would tell him to begin with that I have grandchildren and decided that if that was going to be an issue I might as well as know that to begin with and not proceed with that relationship.  A woman may lose her husband in divorce but she does not divorce her children or her grandchildren, at least good women don’t.  I cannot speak for bad women. I am sure that you are aware as the news most recently pointed out that there are different kinds of women and sometimes men are looking for BAD women. I think most know what situation I am referring too, [my own second marriage that ended because of many reasons but one of those was that my then husband wanted a woman whom he himself called a “hooker” ] saying he took his role model from that se*xual harassment event of Bill Clinton; and of course the NY Governor just resigned because of his decision along that line, and who else has done that? History books are filled with notorious people it seems, and seems like seldom with the good kind of women.  Even in the movies the perversion of truth there that happens often makes it seem as if good women do not ever win. But in my heart of hearts, I know that those women who love GOD and who are honorable, do win! Proverbs 31: 30c is written, ” a woman that feareth THE LORD [GOD] she shall be praised.”

I think of the many so-called titles I have had in my work career: RN, Charge Nurse, Nurse Manager, Nurse Coordinator, Director of Nurses, Peer Review Coodinator, Trauma Nurse, ER Nurse, Clinic Nurse, and yet, the titles I liked best were simple: wife and NANNY, [grandmother] in my case. I am not ashamed of being a grandmother and I pray to always be a truly GRANDmother.

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